EAP 78: Eat That Crow - When Life Makes You a Hypocrite
We all have them. Those “absolute” statements about what we will “never” or “always” do. On this episode of the Early Accountability podcast, Kimi discusses these statements and how they can limit you from future growth if you hold onto them unnecessarily.
For instance, Kimi determined shortly after her lifestyle change of 2005 that led to her losing over 100 pounds, that she would never wear shorts in public again. She was conscious of the excess skin and cellulite that were an inevitable byproduct of losing so much weight and drew the line in the sand that she could never be seen in shorts. A few years later, she had gained a bit of weight back due to life circumstances at the time and she bought a pair of “goal shorts” as a motivator to get back on track.
This past June, when she was packing for her trip to the Dominican Republic, she found those goal shorts from 10 years ago and packed them. Not only did they fit, but they were a little bit too big, and Kimi ended up wearing those and other shorts many times during that trip. She felt so confident, in fact, that she took some photos of herself in shorts and even had some professional photos taken wearing shorts.
The purpose of this anecdote is to demonstrate some of the ways that holding to absolute statements can hold you back in life. As you mature, change, and evolve in life, it is ok to shift some of your absolute statements to reflect who you are now, rather than who you were when you made those decisions. If this is something that you had been very public about doing or not doing and now you are rethinking your position, you might have to show some humility and admit that you were wrong or had the wrong motives. That is ok, and this is one way to prove to yourself and others the ways that you have grown in your mental state.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
•Mindset shifts
•When life makes you a hypocrite
•Be careful with absolutes
•Not holding yourself back in life
Connect with Kimi:
https://www.youtube.com/user/KimiFitWell
For instance, Kimi determined shortly after her lifestyle change of 2005 that led to her losing over 100 pounds, that she would never wear shorts in public again. She was conscious of the excess skin and cellulite that were an inevitable byproduct of losing so much weight and drew the line in the sand that she could never be seen in shorts. A few years later, she had gained a bit of weight back due to life circumstances at the time and she bought a pair of “goal shorts” as a motivator to get back on track.
This past June, when she was packing for her trip to the Dominican Republic, she found those goal shorts from 10 years ago and packed them. Not only did they fit, but they were a little bit too big, and Kimi ended up wearing those and other shorts many times during that trip. She felt so confident, in fact, that she took some photos of herself in shorts and even had some professional photos taken wearing shorts.
The purpose of this anecdote is to demonstrate some of the ways that holding to absolute statements can hold you back in life. As you mature, change, and evolve in life, it is ok to shift some of your absolute statements to reflect who you are now, rather than who you were when you made those decisions. If this is something that you had been very public about doing or not doing and now you are rethinking your position, you might have to show some humility and admit that you were wrong or had the wrong motives. That is ok, and this is one way to prove to yourself and others the ways that you have grown in your mental state.
Topics Covered in this Episode:
•Mindset shifts
•When life makes you a hypocrite
•Be careful with absolutes
•Not holding yourself back in life
Connect with Kimi:
https://www.youtube.com/user/KimiFitWell
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