061 - Understanding and managing trauma with Carolyn Mohler
Therapist Carolyn Mohler discusses trauma and what it is, how to recognize it and how to manage it. She defines trauma as not how an event affects you at the time, but how it affects you today and impacts your life. What might be trauma for one person, the same event may not affect others in the same way.
There are two types of trauma Big T and little t. Big T is what we typically think of like military vets coming home from war and dealing with PTSD or a severe someone who has been severely abused as a child. Little t is less severe trauma, but still affects the person in significant ways. Some examples of little t trauma could be the death of a pet, a car accident without significant injuries, bullying etc.
Trauma can affect your parenting in ways such has having strong, visceral knee jerk responses to something small your child did. Not feeling like you bond or can connect with your child, irritability and anger etc. Working through our own traumas and triggers is vital to being a healthy parent.
Bessel Vanderkolk is a top researcher and expert on trauma. You can find more information on his website:
https://www.besselvanderkolk.com
He wrote this book:
Another book on how trauma affects us:
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