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the no good, very bad, actually awesome day

Finding What's True
Finding What's True
Episode • Feb 13, 2023 • 17m

Ok, so a bad day -- no one actually wants one. We want the good kind, where our kids are all angels, the chores all get done (like some sort of Mary Poppins, spoonful of sugar musical number) and everything feels golden and rainbowie (is this a word? i'm not sure). 

But here's the thing, in the words of Kabbalah teacher David Ghiyam "a good day is a good day...but a bad day... can be a really really good day."  And here's why; on the good days we get to rest, feel great, and maybe pat ourselves on the back for being so lucky to be living our blessed life...and we need these kinds of days, they're wonderful. 

But a bad day, say for instance where your cat pees on every bed in the house, then your kid also pees on your bed, while you're trying to get ready for company, and while you were already overwhelmed and almost brought to tears by the simple task of trying to make a grocery list...this kind of bad day can be really really great. The greatness comes in the pause. IF we can pause (and I would say right now I only pause 50% of the time so there's that) and go hmmmm, interesting. "I wonder why is this in my movie? what a pleasure I get to overcome this freaking challenging day" (also another David Ghiyam quote except for the freaking part). This is an opportunity to practice!! Ahhh, I get to practice letting go of the need to control, practice sitting in discomfort, practice patience...whatever it is that we specifically / uniquely need to work on. When we have these "bad days", it is more often than not, a custom made scenario (from a loving universe) for us to work on our "s*#t". For instance in the face of seemingly insurmountable cat pee reeking laundry, we can stop and say "ohhhhh, this is gunna be a great day. I am not reacting to this and I am building and practicing my patience, letting go of the need to control -- i'm feeling like a super hero over here and oop, look there...I just found my sense of humor...I've been looking for that all week."

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