Harnessing the Power of Your Divorce to Become a Better Man
In this episode of "The Relaxed Male" podcast, I discuss how harnessing the power of a divorce can help men become better men. I begin by introducing the podcast as a place where men can remove the nice guy from their lives and find solutions to their suffering. I greet new listeners and acknowledge their role in the show's growth. I then talk about how people generally avoid discomfort and develop limiting thoughts about divorce. I argue that divorce was not celebrated in the past and still isn't because it involves breaking a vow between two people. I express concern about the hookup culture and how avoiding marriage is causing problems in modern society. I conclude with a scenario where a man's wife suddenly asks for a divorce. Moving on, I discuss how divorce can be a tumultuous time for men, where everything they were used to is uncertain and constantly shifting. Many men develop a victim narrative and blame their spouse for the divorce, and fighting over money can lead to depression and hopelessness. I share a personal story about a man named Wayne, who lost everything in his divorce and eventually committed suicide. I believe that divorce can be an opportunity for personal growth and transformation if approached with the right mindset. I encourage men to go through the discomfort and discard negative aspects of their past while adding controlled, positive elements to become better and stronger. It’s important to remain calm and understand your emotions, said by me in the next part of the podcast. Working on your mental and physical pillars, like learning how to communicate with your children or getting into shape, is crucial. You must take responsibility for your actions and understand where you went wrong in your marriage. I explain how taking responsibility can give you the ability to see what is possible in the future and how it can lead to a lot of accomplishments. Asking yourself questions like what could I change or not change, how can I learn from the experience, and where did I give my power away can help you claim your power and tell the truth. I emphasize that victims who don't take responsibility tend to have no respect. To overcome the victim mentality, individuals must take responsibility for their actions, including their lack of action. By accepting responsibility, individuals can harness their power to become better men. However, it is essential to realize that you cannot control your partner and their actions, but changing your thoughts and actions can improve your life and situation. I offer coaching to help individuals become stronger and higher value in society and encourage listeners to share this message with friends. I thank my listeners, encourage subscriptions, and remind them that new episodes are released on Thursdays at 3 a.m.
00:00:00 Introduction to Episode 184: Harnessing the Power of Divorce
00:00:47 Introduction and Welcome to Relaxed Male
00:03:10 The Problem with Divorce and Victim Mindset
00:11:34 Divorce: A Crucible for Personal Growth
00:14:16 Lessons Learned and Pillars Reinforced After Divorce
00:19:35 Taking Responsibility and Turning Discomfort into Power
00:22:13 Rebuilding Your Wealth with Emotional Strength
00:24:41 What Do You Stand to Learn from Your Experience?
00:27:01 The Power of Responsibility and Claiming it Back
00:30:15 You Can Change Your World by Changing Your Thoughts
How people respond to Divorce- We want to go to the victim narrative.
- Don't have the ability to control what we thought we could
- We also get a scarcity mindset
- We see our resources going and they are out of our control
- You learn what you are in control of
- You learn what pillars are needing shoring up.
- You see where you need to take responsibility
- Give you the ability to see what is possible
- We are stronger because of the experience
- Find out you can accomplish difficult circumstances
- Answer the following questions
- What did I do?
- What Could I have changed?
- What could I not change?
- What do I stand to learn from this experiance?
- Where did I give My power away?
- The victim doesn't have any power
- The victim doesn't get respect
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