Conflict is inevitable, but how we navigate it can transform our relationships, leadership, and personal growth. In this episode, we explore how the Core Values Index (CVI) reveals the underlying triggers behind conflict and provides practical strategies for shifting back to the best of who we are. From understanding anxiety cues in our bodies to identifying our core conflict strategies—whether manipulation, intimidation, interrogation, or aloof judgment—we unpack how self-awareness can help us lead with integrity. Join us as we dive into the neuroscience of conflict, the power of shifting perspectives, and how honoring our core values creates healthier, more connected relationships.
Takeaways
Conflict is a natural part of relationships and should not be avoided.
Anxiety often manifests physically in our bodies before it escalates into conflict.
Understanding core values can simplify conflict resolution.
Healthy conflict strategies can lead to better relationships and outcomes.
Recognizing when our 'lid is flipped' helps us manage emotional responses.
Each core value has a corresponding conflict strategy that can be healthy or unhealthy.
Merchants may manipulate in conflict when their values are violated.
Innovators can become interrogators when feeling disrespected.
Builders may resort to intimidation when their power is threatened.
Bankers can withdraw and judge when they feel their knowledge is not valued.
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Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Living Wholeheartedly
01:12 Understanding Conflict and Core Values
02:47 The Role of Anxiety in Conflict
04:34 Neuroscience and Emotional Responses
07:14 Identifying Core Values in Conflict
09:26 Merchant Conflict Strategies
13:31 Innovator Conflict Strategies
15:09 Builder Conflict Strategies
23:19 Banker Conflict Strategies
26:35 The Importance of Shifting in Conflict
32:11 Conclusion and Resources