My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. 

A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. 

Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization's founder, Patty Wipfler, of "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges." She is also creator of the wildly popular "Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect," and the new online course, "Out With Aggression!" 

You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com, and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys.

Content:

• Raising boys in these days of toxic masculinity
• Taking a hard look at the ways that men are conditioned
• Creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time
• The question of how to help our boys grow into emotionally intelligent men who don’t see women as objects is worldwide
• How to help our boys grow up to be peaceful – Huff Post article
• Move beyond the anger and the fear to what we can DO
• Opportunity shows up in raising our boys
• We need to teach our boys that there are lots of ways to be close that aren’t sexual
• It’s ok to talk, cuddle, hold hands – lots of ways of being intimate
• Documentary of The Mask You Live InNot giving permission to boys for having intimate friendships with other boys
• Navigating the jockeying for power among boys
• Redefining what it means to be masculine
• What is being modeled in the homes for our boys?
• Increase our own emotional intelligence and pay attention to how we navigate and model our own upset
• Boys being encouraged to stuff their emotions
• Not comfortable with allowing our boys the time and space to have feelings
• Help them feel comfortable with their full array of emotions – not just anger
• Popular culture isn’t helpful
• Advocate/ Fight for the right of our boys to have feelings
• AND advocate for them to make mistakes and learn from them
• When our boys make mistakes we need to help them
• Talk about music lyrics and porn and do it when they are YOUNG
• Amy Lang – parent educator, parenting through our children’s sexual development
• Start talking to your boys
• Don’t let your discomfort get in the way of letting our boys be their whole selves
• Amy’s short video about having convos about sexual harassment/assault with our kids
• Talking to our kids about standing up to friends who are harassing others
• Seize opportunities for modeling/showing them what it looks like to “do what’s right”
• Story of masculinity inside of supporting a woman on Reddit
• Acknowledging that standing up for what is right is challenging!!
• Teachable moments are when they make mistakes and getting into mischief
• Final thoughts – “hurt people hurt people” – boys and men are hurting and therefore hurting others… when we help them heal from their hurts, we are solving the problem

Where to find Tosha:

www.toshaschore.com

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