Moya has a big theory and we're not going to like it: most people would rather be told how to live their lives by someone else than work it out for themselves. Plus: advice for a broken-hearted student.

Seats for our live show in London are going fast! Join Ash, Moya and special guest Monica Heisey – comedian and author of Really, Good Actually – at EartH in East London on 21st May. Tickets are available now on Dice.

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Music by Matt Huxley.