We chatted with our aunt and uncle about the family dynamics after divorce in our own family system. Jon Dreizen and Leslie Dreizen Kilgour are our father's younger siblings, who walk us through their own parents' divorce in the 1980s. In this heartfelt conversation, we explore the impact of divorce on sibling relationships, caregiving roles, and childhood memories in a large family. Jon and Leslie reflect on their unique experiences growing up in a divided household, sharing stories of contrasting parental environments, nostalgic moments, and the ways family members navigated post-divorce relationships. Through their perspectives, we gain insight into the lasting effects of generational trauma and the importance of sibling bonds during life’s transitions.

Our discussion delves into the complexities of growing up in a family system shaped by divorce and changing dynamics. Jon and Leslie share how custody arrangements and household differences impacted their lives, as well as the crucial role caregivers and siblings played in providing support. They reflect on the emotional challenges of their formative years, including the lack of fully articulated care and encouragement, and how these experiences influenced their own parenting styles. This candid exploration highlights the significance of being heard and supported as children, the healing of the inner child, and the enduring importance of family connections.

Throughout the conversation, we celebrate the humor, love, and resilience within our family. Jon and Leslie’s memories of shared experiences and the bonds of siblinghood illustrate the strength and laughter that have carried them through life’s ups and downs. We touch on the importance of conscious parenting, honesty in communication, and fostering a nurturing environment for future generations. Ultimately, this episode serves as a reminder of the value of family culture, the ongoing journey of healing, and the powerful legacy of sibling relationships.