My guest today is Gemma Hartley.

Gemma is a freelance journalist and the author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. She’s a mom of 3 kids, 5, 7 and 10

Takeaways from the show:

• Gemma’s journey of being a writer
• The article that started her career 
• Not wanting to ask your family to do something, just wanting them to know to do it
• Teasing apart emotional labor
• The pressure that lays on moms’ shoulders
• What are shared standards
• Acknowledge your standards exist for a reason 
• Holding resentment when your significant other feels like they should get praise for things you do on a daily basis
• Being in conversation with our family in a way that supports everyone
• Make it normal to talk about emotional labor 
• Vulnerability with your partner is scary but necessary 
• When going into emotional labor conversations, be clear on your intentions
• The process of re-evaluating the life you share should include everyone being involved
• Tools that help make everyone feel supported in emotional labor
• Asking your kids to “help” you with household chores implies it is your job, which it isn’t
• Recognize the subtle messaging you’re giving your kids

Where to find Gemma:

Book | Website | Facebook | Instagram | Women Aren’t Nags Article | Emotional Labor Article

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