2 Relational Skills Everyone Needs to Know - Request and Repair
Monica Tanner shares transformative relationship skills to help couples communicate more effectively and maintain passion in their marriages. Through practical frameworks, she reveals how making specific requests and mastering repair techniques can dramatically improve relationship satisfaction.
• Most people complain about relationship problems rather than making clear requests
• Every complaint contains a hidden request that can be uncovered
• Effective requests follow three steps: rocking the boat, being specific, and showing appreciation
• Requests should be specific, behavioral, and time-bound
• Asking "Is there anything I can do to help you come through for me?" increases success rate
• Sexual requests can follow the same framework while respecting boundaries and choice
• Repair is a one-way street—only one person's concerns should be addressed at a time
• The repair process should be limited to eight sentences maximum
• Always begin repair by "remembering love" and your purpose for the conversation
• Describe what happened objectively, share your interpretation, express feelings, and make a request
If you're looking to improve your marriage, reach out to Monica at moni@monicatanner.com to set up a time to chat. Learn more about Monica's coaching and podcast at monicatanner.com or find her on Instagram.