The only reality that matters is your own. As you think about shaping that and what influences it, you have to think how you feel about yourself. I travel a lot solo and I get asked often, “Why are you still single?”  On this particular trip, I was in a Spanish tapas bar eating and drinking and having a good time by myself. These two guys ask me this. I just told them, “There's nothing wrong with me. I'm perfect just the way that I am.” And in that moment my reality became their reality. They thought I was just as amazing too. I'll leave you with that. The only reality that matters is your own and that's the one you have to spend time shaping.