When we are able to be comfortable in our own skin regardless of other people's actions, we have learned the art of Emotional Sobriety. On the other hand, when we are dependent upon other people filling our expectations, that is when we are Emotionally Dependent and unable to stand on our own two feet. An effective recovery can only take place when we learn to be Emotionally Sober. Closing Song "Say Yes to a Better Life" by Kelly Z.