Let's Talk about Goal Setting and Fear of Failure... On this week's episode of the Lunch and Learn with Dr. Berry we have Dr. Brad Bellard, a phenomenal peak performance coach, who is driven to help professionals maximize their potential, so they achieve more success and fulfillment. Today Dr. Brad is going to drive home the mantra NO MORE EXCUSES. Dr. Brad is a best-selling author and sought-after keynote speaker, delivering impactful messages on topics including performance, purpose, and his personal story of going from ordinary to extraordinary. We are very fortunate enough to get Dr. Brad on this week's episode of the Lunch and Learn community because he is ready to help us all get out of the cycle of unfinished goals, help us battle the fear of failure on our health journey and gives us tips and tricks to make sure our goals become reality. 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Introduction Dr. Berry: And welcome to another episode of the Lunch and Learn with Dr. Berry. I'm your host, Dr. Berry Pierre, your favorite Board Certified Internist. Founder of Pierre Medical Consulting, helping you empower yourself for better health with the number one podcast for patient advocacy here with the Lunch and Learn with Dr. Berry. Bringing you another episode. This is Episode 118. We have Dr. Brad Bellard who is an amazing, phenomenal performance coach who is going to get us right this episode. A lot of times when we talk about just the aspect of goals and achieving goals and what that means, I think a lot of times we kind of set people up for failure, right? And especially in the health space where we set patients up to say like, hey, you gotta stop smoking in three months, or hey, you got to lose all this weight. Or you watch your cholesterol. You gotta do all of these things that we set expectations on our patients. But a lot of times we don't actually train our patients to achieve those expectations. And Dr. Brad, who is an amazing speaker, he has a YouTube page where we're pushing him to hurry up and get a podcast because he needs to be on a podcast. Great blog as well too, who is going to really educate us and get us right on the correct mindset to make sure that not only do we have goals that we want to achieve, but we know how to succeed in getting those goals and we know have to deal with the missteps that are likely gonna be in the way on your route to those goals. So just a quick little bio. Dr. Brad is a double board certified sports medicine physician. He's a peak performance coach, as well as a non operative sports medicine specialist. Dr. Brad helps injured active individuals, avoid surgery, decrease pain and improve function. He's also served as a team physician for multiple professional teams including the NBA Dallas Mavericks and as a regular guest on Dallas, ESPN radio show inside sports medicine. As a peak performance coach, which again, I'm telling you like even though I know he's a sports medicine physician, like this is really where I think he excels and this is where I've been at narrowed by his growth. As a peak performance coach, Dr. Brad helps driven professionals maximize their potential so they achieve more success and fulfillment. Dr. Brad is a bestselling author, sought after keynote speaker delivering impactful messages on topics including performance purpose and his personal story on going from ordinary to extraordinary. Again, if you're listening to this in the month of July, you know, we are all about self-reflection. We're all about our mental clarity, mental health. I knew I'd be doing you guys a disservice if I did not tell you the aspect of achieving goals and setting goals and how to actually be successful at them. Dr. Brad actually drops a statistics bomb that actually kind of, you know, floors me throughout the episode when we talk about New Year's resolutions because you know, obviously if you're listening to this in July and you made this new year's resolution in January, if you look to the left, look to the right, one of your partners isn't talking about the new year's resolution, right? And he told me the amount of people who actually drop off by like February, March, which is absolutely crazy. So be on the lookout for that little tidbit. I mean, again, you're going to hear about his book, you're going to hear about a coaching program that he's got coming up and we're definitely excited for. And again, following this episode, I want you guys to follow him and I want you to pester him and to make sure he gets this podcast out because it's needed. We need a voice like his in the podcast space and I'm definitely excited for that to come whenever that does come around. But we're going to push it to be sooner rather than later. Again, like always, if you're not done, so go ahead and subscribe to the podcast. Leave me a five star review. Go ahead, follow Dr. Brad and know how much you learned and gained from this week's episode because again, I was sitting here like writing mental notes myself, and this is definitely an episode. I'm going to be going back and forth and drawing inspiration and drawing knowledge to make sure I'm achieving all the goals that I set forth to achieve from this year and here all forth. So again, another episode here on Lunch and Learn with Dr. Berry. Subscribe on all your favorite social media outlets, whether that be Instagram, Instagram stories, Facebook, Twitter. I'm on all of them. So wherever you are sharing it, I'm likely there. If you mention me, I'll definitely make sure I acknowledge on the support. You guys have a great and blessed day. Episode Dr. Berry: Alright, Lunch and Learn community. You just got a chance to listen to another amazing bio. I think I say this every week, I'm blessed to be able to know a lot of people who are doing some amazing things out in the health world and community and those who are willing to kind of reach back and educate Lunch and Learn community on all the amazing stuff they're doing. So again Dr. Brad, thank you for joining today's podcast. Dr. Brad Bellard: Dude my absolute pleasure. We talked about this before we got on offline, but you know, it's an honor and a privilege to be on here because I've been watching you. We got a lot of mutual friends together and we speak similar language in terms of being able to promote and improve other people's lives in very different ways, whether it's mental health or whether it's personal growth or whether it's their physical health. And so is my time we got together, man. So I appreciate the fact that you reached out and I'm excited man. Dr. Berry: And you know what I love about that is that, because I think a lot of times when people talk about growth in those different areas, they talk about it as if it's separate, like separate entities just kind of like run in parallel but not realizing to be really whole, right? Like you've got to have all of these things kinda in line. Right? Dr. Brad Bellard: Well, and you said it dude. We really separate our physical health from what's going on in our mind? And to me, you can't reach a certain level of physical health until the mind understands where it's trying to go and believe that it's possible to get there. So yes, it goes hand and hand. For somebody to maybe look like they're in great shape, but mentally they're not there, they're stressed. You may not see the toll that the stress has taken on internally, but you know, that's conflicting. So really ultimately like you said to be oh, and you've got to have the mind antibody right together. So now you, you hit the nail on the head. Dr. Berry: I have a lot in my Lunch and Learn community members who like to skip past the intro. So they've been, maybe they didn't catch your bio, right? For those who did it, tell a little something about yourself that maybe isn't in the bio but like, you know, really says like who Dr. Brad really is? Dr. Brad Bellard: Man, at the end of the day dude, I'm just a guy who was at the, you know, just really came from ordinary beginnings in the Houston area. Had no aspirations of becoming a doctor, had people who believed in me much more than I ever believed in myself. And I was crazy enough to believe it. And over time, you know, became a physician but always had this 'its' Dr. Berry, that there was something else that was a voice that was waiting to be heard about really the story of my life and how being able to maximize your potential and the way people tapped into my potential so that I can eventually become more than I ever thought I could. And even, you know, try to excel to become more, really try to convey that message to other people, man. And I've been blessed to have some success in a lot of different areas. You know, I served as the assistant team physician for the Dallas Mavericks for multiple years. Radio is something that's been a passion of mine as I've been on ESPN radio as a cohost for them on a show that we do here in the Dallas area. And you know, I'll do some speaking, bestselling author and all that stuff. Don't really talk like talking a whole lot about that. But I do bring it up only to let people know what's possible. That's really the only reason I do it. Dr. Berry: I mean, sometimes Dr. Brad you gotta let people know you're not playing out here too. You know, I mean, because sometimes people don't respect the amount of work you put in, right? Until you start you know, listing out the CV out, right? Sometimes we got to list to CV and I'm a 100% champion for listing the CV out when need be. Dr. Brad Bellard: Oh listen, some time, you've got to check folks. Just so they know who they talking to and you know when I get that feeling, yeah. Every now and then I gotta put a couple of pointers out there and some reminders. But for the most part, man, me, dude, I'm just a chill dude trying to make people more successful in the field than they are now. Dr. Berry: So what do I want to talk about? Because I'm very interested in all that amazing stuff you do. When we talk about peak performance coaching, when was that time in your life when you knew that you know what I needed to make this direction shift. I'm not sure if it was a turn im not sure it was a change, but I just needed to go in this direction. And then how did you end up becoming the peak performance coach? Because I think Lunch and Learn community, I really want them to kind of get ahold of, right? Especially because we're in July. Right? And I know we're in July, but depending on when you listen to this, a lot of y'all talked about New Year's resolutions in January. So I know a lot of time this is when those New Year's resolutions, you know, people stop talking about it. People stop bringing it up. Right? So I kind of want to know what was your transition, when you say, when you realize, oh I needed to do something more. Because I think you kind of alluded to it, like I was doing okay but I wasn't 100% fulfilled. And then when you say, you know what, I'm going to take this mantle and drive people to not only drive myself, but then now I'm going to turn around and drive others. Dr. Brad Bellard: Yup. Yeah. So first of all, you talk about those New Year's resolutions, man. There was a study that came out recently that showed that about 80% of people before February hits already dropped the resolution. So you gave a lot of people a little more of a time. And I know they might be dropping off now, let me tell you something. If they stuck with it until now, they're probably gonna stick with it. But before, a lot of people that happen about five, six months ago. But no, man you know, so I believe everyone's present and future in some way connected to their past. So really it just comes down to my story. You know, when I was younger, my brother was a large motivating force in my life. He was at the time an entrepreneur and he was trying to get a business started. And so he had people in his life that were pouring into him about how to see yourself, how to have a better self-image, how to succeed in these success based principles. And my brother was 12 years older than me, so he directly kind of fed that into me. And I was just kinda, you know, all ears. And at the time I was a young athlete trying to play basketball and I would apply these principles. And so I started seeing that these things work because unfortunately I just didn't get this from my home, nothing against my parents. They were just, they didn't speak life into us like that. Dr. Berry: Do you sometimes find it is that they don't know how or the foundation isn't there to be able to build and teach those methods just aren't there for them? Dr. Brad Bellard: I firmly believe, at least my parents. I think most parents, they want to try to do the best they can for their children, but they're ignorant to how it works. And when I say ignorant, not in a bad way, but they just literally lack the knowledge of what it takes. No one poured into them into that way. So how would they just wake up one day and be able to share with me principles of success or being able to believe in myself or be able to believe that things are possible. So, you know, they did their best and I'm grateful for that. But you know, my story from early on was a story of one in which people believed in me much more than I ever believed in myself. And you know, I'm a hard headed, I guess it never really started sticking until later in life that I would look back and look and be like, you know, I actually did pretty good in that area. Maybe I can apply this to other areas of life. And so the same thing happened in college. I mean, I could've swore I was gonna fail College. I mean, I just knew I was gonna fail. My first semester in college I was so fearful. It really forced me to study because I was so fearful. I was gonna fail and I did well. And it was one of those things like wow, those realizations. Like, man, if I apply myself, I'll do well. And again, I just had people, dude, I mean, I'm so blessed because there was a professor I had who just saw more than me. And then she invited me to try to be a part of extracurricular activities. And I was like, why does she keep talking to me? Why does she keep trying to include me in all of this stuff? And I'm so grateful now because she saw something in me. And so that led to speaking for the first time in college. And I remember I dressed about four to 500 people in it. And something happened right there, man. And I said, you know, I've got to do something with this. But I went along my career in medicine and successfully graduated from medical school. And then, you know, became a doctor. What happened was, despite the fact that I've successfully achieved, you know, what I wanted to do in my professional career, I found myself and what most people would consider successful in life, you know what I mean? I mean, I'm a doctor, I had started a little small home business. I wasn't fulfilled dude. And I couldn't figure it out. I was like, why? Why am I still, why do I feel like is this it? It's like, I actually got to where I wanted to go and I'm like, this is it. Dr. Berry: You know that's very interesting because when you talk about from an outward appearance, the degrees were there, the business was there, the business is doing well, but on the inside it was like, something's not 100% right. Like I'm not 100% but happy. And that's a very interesting perspective because I think a lot of people don't do enough reflection on themselves to realize like, that's probably it. You're missing something and that's why you're not happy like you want to be or in that regards. Dr. Brad Bellard: Well dude, think about it. It's hard taking a look in the mirror and being honest, dude. You know? So when people feel a certain way like that, they feel unfulfilled and I know exactly the feeling because I ignored it for so long that for most people who ignore one or two things is going to happen. They become numb and then they'll just make excuses and then eventually they'll just kind of get stuck where they are and then we won't be able to see a way out. (And more excuses become regret). Yep, that's right. And then the regrets become other excuses to justify why you haven't gone after something else. I try to address why you're dealing with that. So it's hard looking in the mirror. Dude I get it. Like I was there. And you know, I mean at the time I'm thinking like, dude, I put all this work time, money in and you know, listen, med school, ain't cheap Dr. Berry, you know it. Starting business ain't cheap. So you know, I'm sitting here like, why do I feel like this? And so, you know, I get that, not wanting to reflect because reflection hurts, but growth requires reflection. It has to, because if you can't recognize and be aware of where you are now, there's no way you can kind of say, well, where do I want to go? I don't want to fix this. (I love it). But to answer your question, so it got to a point to where I was struggling with two things. One, I was unfulfilled. Two, I knew I was actually under achieving, people say under achieving? Dr. Berry: Interesting, okay. Alright. Hey, Lunch and Learn community, you gonna see my eyebrow, hold on, alright. Dr. Brad Bellard: But here's the deal. We all have this personal gauge of how whether we know we're actually living up to our potential. When you look in the mirror, whether you're doing what you can or whether you're falling short. And so because I kinda got stuck in a rut, I really wasn't trying to advance my practice. I really wasn't advancing my business. It all looked good again on outside looking in. But I became so frustrated. It all came to a point where I was like, I've got to change. I've got to do something. And to be a hundred percent honest with you, man, I wasn't doing what I needed to do spiritually. I wasn't doing what I needed to do as a husband, as a father, as a doctor. I was trying to figure out what my purpose. I didn't know. I mean, I was like, because obviously what I did here in my career was not scratching it, so to speak, to try to figure out, man, is this it? What else am I going to do? I got fed up man. And that frustration and pain led me to really, really invest in myself and figure out what I needed to do to take things to another level. For me, one, I had to discover my purpose and two, I really had to start applying a lot of those success principles, those faith based success principles in my life. And when I started doing that with the help of other people in my life, people, coaches, mentors, I started to see things changed in a drastic way because of that. You know, like I said, I've been blessed to have some success. I said I have to pay this forward. It is not a question I'm obligated for people who were where I was, you know, man, is this it? What am I doing? I'm a successful professional, but like I'm stuck. Now I gotta wear the mask in front of everybody else because I just got to do it, right? But internally they're like, dude, how did I get to where I am now? And I'm still stuck. I don't know what's next. I know there's more to life. I know I want more. I just don't really know how to get it. And you know, I've been able to develop some systems and tools to be able to help people do that. So that's really how the whole peak performance started was I was like, dude, let me go back and look at what I did, really define it and turn it into a way that I can voice clearly to people with my help. How to start living a life of purpose and peak performance. Dr. Berry: I love it. This is what they need to hear. Like I said, the 80% of people fell off in February. (That's right). Maybe if they heard something like this in February, you know, they'd still be around in July. Right? (That's right). I think, and it sounds like that's a very big motivator for you, right? Like getting, you know, people to really turn their goals into reality, right? And really pushing it because if it worked for you and I think it was interesting because you talked about a mass and I think a lot of times when we talk about people wearing masks, sometimes they don't realize that successful people do it too. And I say successful in quotes because success is usually, you know, an outwardly appearance, the degrees, the money, that's all they usually can draw from because they don't really know what's going on the inside. Dr. Brad Bellard: Well look, I'll say this, if you know you're wearing the mask and you know, internally something's hurting, that's actually a good thing. Here's what's scary is when you're wearing a mask and you don't even know it, and you'll know what I mean by this. We're both physicians. Somebody has got hypertension, they don't feel hypertension. You can't feel hypertension. I guess what? You can't be like, Oh man, my blood pressure's just hurting me right now. You'll do that. But guess what? It's killing you on the inside. And so if you're aware enough to know that something's not right, like dude, you know, I'm just not where I want to be being 100%. That's a good thing. It's just time to address it really. And I'm here to let you know, number one, it's possible to achieve what you want. And number two does a way to do it and three, there's someone here to help you do that. You know what motivates me, man? (Talk to me, let's go). Here's the deal. So many times we want better for ourselves and I get it. Dude, that's big. That might be like an initial self-motivated. That was probably my initial motivator. Like, dude, I'm going to do something. I'll start. I'm going to do something. What motivates me now and what will create lasting motivation and service? Dude, there are people out there who are currently right now where I was years ago where I'm like literally gripping my head, trying to figure out I am not where I need to be. So it's more trying to find those people and it's my personal obligation to serve. And find those people because if I can get in front of those people and help them, well then I've done my part, but see it's not about me anymore. And when you get to that point in anything that you're doing, which I encourage people to find whatever that is for you. Find something that's big enough in your life that if you don't do it because somebody else will suffer or someone else will suffer because you don't do what you're supposed to do. That is a motivator. We'll let ourselves down almost a hundred percent of the time. We know somebody is, oh dude, but we know somebody else is relying on us and you're not doing what you're supposed to do. That hurts. So yeah, that gives me up, man. Dr. Berry: Definitely a good point here. What do you think stops people? What do you think, in your history of your career, the people you work with, what do you think stops most people from really achieving what they really want? Because we talk a lot, right? In January we're hype. (Yup). But what happens in February? What happens in March? Now people fall off so much. Right. What's been your thing that you've run into like often over and over and over again? Dr. Brad Bellard: One word, man. Belief. I'll keep it real simple. And you could just, you and all the listeners, man, I can just let this marinate. If you believe you could do it, you'd be doing it or you would have done it already. (I love it). Let me think about it. If you really, really, really thought you could start that business, you would have already pulled the trigger. That would not have been an excuse. We were talking before this about me podcast and for some reason as a belief issue of why I haven't taken action to actually start my own podcast. I do all the other stuff and it really, I mean there's no excuse for me because I've got so much content and stuff out there. Dr. Berry: And Lunch and Learn community, I'm telling you, he got so much. Like don't have to do a new thing for nothing. He can just, I'm just going to take this idea from here. I'm going to take this out from here and he probably has a couple months' worth of stuff right now. Dr. Brad Bellard: Oh dude, almost a year's worth of stuff. And so you know, here's what you'll find is pure honesty from me. I'm not perfect. So when I'm telling you about something that you know, so you asked me like what stops people? Saying stuff that stops other people, the same stuff that stops me. The thing is I become so aware of what it is now that I can talk about it and I've been able to say, okay, well it belief is the issue really with intention. Use that to my advantage and believe something to turn the goals and the wants and the desires into reality. But what stops people man, is that there's a belief issue. Most people don't want to believe that, but it's the reality man. I mean, you know, if you believed a hundred percent you can do, you'd already be doing it all. Dr. Berry: I love it. And you've talked before especially about achieving goals, right? And you've given tips like this. Again, like I said, I followed Dr. Brad on IG, on Facebook, on YouTube, and on the blog. And he's talked about three tips for achieving goals, which I love. And I really want him to kind of, you know, it really hit home, especially for you guys who are in the middle or in the beginning or are starting or towards the end of your health journey, whatever that is, right? And he talks about these three tips as far as achievement and goals, right? Number one is eliminating excuses. And I love that. I love the elimination of excuses because I find that a lot of us, you know, we, they come out of nowhere. And when sometimes we make up our own excuses. We don't even give people time to like, well, that's the reason why you ain't doing it because of this. Like we have our own excuses kind of get away. The elimination of excuses like it sounds easy, right? (Oh dude, sounds too simple). How have you helped people eliminate excuses? Honestly, what are some of the funniest excuses of you've heard in the past that like, come on man? Dr. Brad Bellard: I could have you rolling on my own excuses, man. You know what I'm saying? I mean we thought about this podcast, let's start there. I've got all the tools and everything in the world. Just start a podcast and I have it. Ultimately, people want change. But there are three things that, or pretty much mandatory that I've seen to really kind of take big picture to achieve change, to have transformation, achieve your goal, however you want to label that. One is mindset. In that mindset, and that's a big word. But like, you know, positive mindset. (Especially because a lot of us have negative ones). We have negative mindset. So mindset, under that mindset is belief. So really your internal thoughts. So let's just say mindset – one. Second is clarity. I think people, most people don't know what they want. They know they want something different, but I don't know if they know what they want and you can't really start moving. You can start moving away from something, but to really be purpose driven and get to what you want, you have to then start moving towards something but people don't know what that is. So clarity or vision. And then the third thing is you got to have people, man. I thought for the longest time I could do things on my own and that was one of my roadblocks. I'm just going to wake up and be able to just do this stuff. But you need people and there's various types of people you need. You need someone who's, you need people around you. You need your tribe of people who are going to encourage you. You need a mentor or coach or somebody who's been there already to now guide you along the way. Dude, there's a Harvard study that showed that 95% of where you'll be in there, your results in life is as a result of the people who around. 95%, this is a Harvard study. So you telling me you don't need people, you want to continue to be like, I wasn't a pastor, I don't need people. I don't need a coach. I don't need a mentor. You know what ads put my prior to the side dude, because I wanted more out of life. And so that's really what it is, requires mindset, clarity and people. And that in a big picture will really help people to get what they want. That'll help them eliminate excuses and to do anything else. If you'd look big picture, that's what it is. Now I'm here to let people know I'm a person that can help you to do the other two things, which is the mindset and the clarity. So yeah. Dr. Berry: Your second tip was having a strong why? Why is that so important? Why is it so important for a person who wants to achieve their goals to like really have a strong why? Dr. Brad Bellard: You'll quit. You'll quit, dude. You know, you gotta eliminate excuses. You've got to have a strong one. I mean, and I know what you're talking about, you know, to achieve any goal, do you got to be able to eliminate excuses. You got to have a strong one. Look man, if being excited about something is only going to last so long, dude. Because at some point you're going to get punched in the mouth. You're going to get punched in the gut. And the question is, is what I'm going after worth getting up and feeling that again. Because you may. (Okay). That why has to be, dude, it's gotta be deep enough to get up again man. You modify, bless your listeners right now. (Please do). Dude, there's a book that is called Start with Why by a guy named Simon Sinek. It was one of the books that changed my life. I've got about 10 books or so that have just been, you know, those game changers in life, right? It's called Start with Why. And he talks in that book about companies that have not just like extra ordinary companies, companies like where do you like this company or not? You can't deny they've done well and created a following and community, but it was Apple. They talk about big time companies and how they did that and how you can relate that start starting with why to your life to be able to achieve more, be more, do more. And when I saw how powerful the power of why is man, I said I need to know the reason why I'm doing almost everything in my life. If I can't give a reason of why I'm doing something with intention, maybe I don't need to be doing it or maybe I need to figure out why, why I'm doing it instead of just living haphazard, man. Dr. Berry: I love it. Okay. Alright. And I see, listen I told you. I told you we learn it today and obviously for those who may be driving, you know, listen to wherever you're listening to, I will make sure all of the links that Dr. Brad talks about will be in the show notes as well too. So you don't have to like scary down there. Right? Because I'll make sure we have a link to that as well. The last time we talked about a solution based mentality. What's that? Dr. Brad Bellard: It's the difference between when, so solution. In order to have a solution there's got to be a problem. I think we can all agree like in order to have a solution that means that you're solving a problem. So by means problems are inevitable in our lives, but there's a difference between when a problem comes and immediately saying there's no answer to it or having the solution based mentality where you say, okay how can we fix this? It's the question of how, how can, when you start to ask yourself questions like that, the mind opens up to a possibility of how it can happen. I mean just as recent as the other day I was talking to my wife and she's out of town and she has some car trouble and so she went, got it checked out and it was a certain amount of money and she was like, you know, what are we going to do? I said, well hold on, hold on. How can we figure this out? As soon as you start to think that you start to think of possibilities. But if something happens and you immediately like, dude we're done. We can't do anything. Possibility has been ended. When you're on your way toward any goal, if you're trying to achieve anything in life, there's going to be problems. I can assure there's going to be obstacles and when it happens you have to say, how can I move around this? How can I, because it will empower you to think about things that you didn't ordinarily think about before. Once you are presented with it. But don't just write off any other possibilities because at that point you'll stop. Dr. Berry: That makes so much sense. Once you've come with that initial thought like, oh my God, this can't be done. Your brain is not going to even think about other ways that it possibly could be done because you've already quit before the race even started. Dr. Brad Bellard: Dude questions just in general or is this big? I mean you start asking yourself questions. That's, you know, you talked about self-reflection, like being able to reflect. A lot of that is just asking yourself questions. I mean one of the biggest questions I ask people is, what do you want? Like, I mean that's a big question Dr. Berry. But most of us, I don't think we think that we can get it. So you talk about beliefs, that's why we don't even address what we want because it's like, well I kinda gotta go to work. I kinda got to do this. Like okay, I get that. But what do you want when you really site people what they want, that's when you can start moving towards something because you can define what you want. That's that clarity piece I was talking about earlier. Dr. Berry: I don't think it will be complete. Right? Especially in the space of, you know, helping people achieve their goals and talking about the goals, you know, that they have. Right? Without talking about the aspect of failure and you do talk a lot about failure and really the fear of it. But most importantly you're talking about like how do you get over that, right? If you guys, like you said, I think that failure is kind of rooted in their belief, right? Some people believe the failure before they believe their goal. Dr. Brad Bellard: Dude, failure is so powerful. Think about it. If you have a goal that's something that you want to do, oftentimes the fear of failure will stop you from taking an action toward it. I mean, think about it. Our Egos are so fragile, to get hurt. No, this is real. Our egos, (Talk to them). No, no, no. I'm talking to me too, man. Our egos are so fragile and we don't want to feel the pain of not achieving something that we don't even have yet. That we don't even, we don't even like, it's not like we're losing something, but we're trying to go after something. You ain't even have it. I'm not even going to go after what is this, that and the other half. But you ain't have it yet. Like we're so concerned of how we will feel when we fail that we won't even move. Dr. Berry: As you can see my face because I'm like, yo, yo, he hit me right there. Yeah. It's a lot of us who are walking around. Like you say, we won't even start the race because we're already thinking about, oh, happens if I fail going towards the end of the track. Dr. Brad Bellard: You know, what are people gonna think? What's going to happen? People will think, let me tell you, they'll probably think things that you even have in mind of what they're gonna think, you know? So that's where we go back to that why question is whatever you're going after. Is it worth it? Is it really worth it? Sometimes fear, like I was talking about before, you know, I was so fearful that I was going to fail. It really pushed me to go. Sometimes it can be a push, but if you're so fearful that you're not taking action, that's when it becomes a problem. We're all gonna face fear. The question is this, what are you going to do when it happens? Are you gonna have a healthy response to fear? Fear is part of life. But oftentimes we are factored in as opinion. So there's fact, okay, there is a fact that maybe you failed a test or a fact that maybe you didn't make money in this first business. That's fact. Your opinion of the fact that you'll never be able to do it again is not real. So then it becomes that fear is now a choice. You choose fear. Danger is real. Danger is real. Dude, look, if a lion comes up in this room right now, like I'm feel like I'm in danger, like yes, I will. It's time to run. I'm fearful because I'm in danger. But starting that business ain't nothing going on. I mean, what's gonna happen to you? It's not like you're going to have a heart attack, you know? It's not like you're gonna, so now it's a choice. So you've gotta be able to, to address it and know that it's there and then deal with it in a healthy fashion. Dr. Berry: Amazing. And again, like I said, touched on, and I love the fact that a lot of us that you talked on are, a lot of us are choosing, right? Where we're choosing fear, we're choosing this fear of failure and we're not even starting, right? Because again, that that fear is going to be there. We expected to be there and for yourself, it actually helped push you forward and motivate you towards your goal. But for some, unfortunately, maybe again, you say 80%, wow that 80%, I've been thinking about that number this whole time like wow 80% really drops off by February. Wow. A lot of us like have chosen I, this is the route I'm going. You know what? I know I was hype in January, but I'm good on that now. I'll see y'all next January. Dr. Brad Bellard: Let me talk about resolutions for a minute. Again, I just want to bless the people who are here because I get it man. Like people, I think most of us have goals now. I think most of us have things that we want to do. We may not say the word goals because it might scare some people because they know if they failed, then they know they fail. They're going out and go. But we have things that we want to do. Let's just put it that way. If you don't, people will go to the gym. Let's just take weight loss for a second. Say, man, you know I'm going to lose. I want to lose 20 pounds. And so they'll start putting in action. Like I'm going to go to the gym, I'm gonna put all these actions. But the one thing they miss is mentally being there before they ever get there. So you have to have a self-image of having lost 20 pounds already to be able to continue moving. You know, we are where we are right now because we had an image of ourselves at some point in our life to be here now or else we wouldn't be the people that we are. I mean that's just how it works. So if you want to lose that weight, believe you've already lost it before you even start. But you know that takes work. That takes the, it takes exercise, it takes mental exercise just like it does physical exercise to get there. But it's the mental exercise that people don't implement, which is why after two weeks is too hard and is just, you know what, I'm not going to go to the gym anymore. Dr. Berry: Oh I love it. Dr. Brad you have really put a charge, not only Lunch and Learn community, but also myself. Like I was, I said, you know what? Maybe I can go and do this thing too. Like maybe, because now I'm like, wow, this is something I was holding myself back. Even though, I know especially Lunch and Learn community they talk all the time like " Dr. Berry what else can you do?" I don't want to limit myself. I love this process of going through the steps, right? Going through the steps of recognizing I want to do something different. Recognize it. Alright. These are some of the steps that may hinder me, but because I know my why, I'm going to keep moving forward. And yes, that monster of failure in the shadow, but I'm not gonna let that monster stop me from getting to work. Right? So first of all, thank you for such an amazing educational lesson. Like I said, we are definitely hype. and you were definitely person Like, yeah, I gotta make sure I get him on a show because I don't know if people realize how amazing this guy is. So I said, let's get him on one way or the other. Dr. Brad Bellard: Well, I'll tell you Dr. Berry. One of the things that I love that you say is empower yourself for better health. I think so oftentimes some of our patient base, they look to us for all the answers. And we can have answers, but we can't result for you. You know what I'm saying? I can't result for you. I can't get your blood pressure down. I'm an educator and I and I will educate you and guide you, but I can't do the work. Now what I like about most of our patients that come in to see us. When I say us, doctors like you and myself, is that, yes they're taking an active role by seeing a doctor. But if you're saying, hey listen, you know, we've got to get your blood pressure down, that's a goal. And so they need to be empowered. And I love the fact that you are creating content to empower people to ultimately hit their health goals. Your health is important. And so thank you for this podcast, dude. Thank you for having me. I hope that what I'm talking about here will help the community of listeners who listen to you and be empowered and take the information and knowledge that you're giving them, including what I'm giving them. To be better patients so that they can be better people so they can have better health. You know what I mean? But you're doing exactly that, man. You're empowering people. But I challenge everybody who's listening to this to take the information. (Let's go). Yeah. So take the information that Dr. Berry's talking about and let's use it. See, he doesn't provide this content just because he likes hearing himself talk. Okay. I mean we want to create change. So we challenge you to take this information so that you can hit your health goals. So then you can take back control of your health, which is another thing that he says is take back control. We can only do so much, but in our passion and in our purpose, we deliver this information. But there's going to be up to you to take action so that you can have a better life. And listen, at the end of the day, it's worth it. I mean, what is it going to feel like to be able to, to not have to be on the medication anymore? What's it gonna feel like to lose the weight? The knees feel better? What is going to feel like to be able to wake up knowing that heck, you just achieved your goal of losing 10 pounds? What's it going to feel like to be able to know that you're serving as a phenomenal example for your family and others around you of what to do? We talked about 95% of who we become is a matter of who's around us. Seeing what we don't oftentimes understand is the decisions we make for our own health is having a profound, maybe more drastic effect on those people around us. Your family, your friends. (Oh, yes). Whether you're a grandparent, parent or just a friend of someone you serve in some kind of way. Whenever you make decisions on your health on a daily basis because there are around you. So realize it's not about you. It's not always about you but the decisions you make more have effect on other people around you. So I challenge you guys to listen to what Dr. Berry says. Apply it. And I mean, dude, you're a blessing dude. So I appreciate you. Dr. Berry: Must appreciate them. Amazing words and we'll definitely make sure we get that written down somewhere so we can post that on IG. So cool. Before you go, and because I have such amazing guests and it's amazing. I'm in a circle that, especially a circle of physicians who are not only killing it in health, but we're just killing it in general, right? Like I always, I always leave this time say, alright, Dr. Brad, please tell the people what are you doing? Please tell them, you know, books, courses, whatever you have so they can be connected to who Dr. Brad is and they can see why Dr. Berry feels like Dr. Brad's so amazing. What's going on right now? Talk about the book, talk about the… let's go. Dr. Brad Bellard: Yeah, man. Listen. I'm extremely excited. Like I said, my passion is all driven towards service man and trying to get people to a place to where they really can maximize their professional and a personal potential via faith-based principles so that they can achieve more success and fulfillment. That fulfillment word is really big. So everything I do is really centered upon that in terms of things that I do as a peak performance coach outside of my practice. So I've got a book, I've got a bestselling book called Elite: A Modern Success Guide to Purpose and Peak Performance. And it literally serves as a guide for people who are looking to achieve more, be more and live more. So we've got the book. We talked about three things earlier that everybody needs to some sort of transformation, mindset, vision and people, that's MVP. So I've got something I'm extremely excited about. You know, a lot of people are kind of pulling from me here, there to work with them or coach to help them hit their goals. What's really cool is I'm creating a membership so that people can literally have access to me month to month to learn and implement a habit that will help them become the person that they always want it to be and sustain it over time. So I'm literally going to be your accountability partner. I'll be the person who coach you. I'll be the person who encourages you on a month to month basis as being a member of the MVP nation. So that's going to be rolling out really, really soon. And then, you know, I do some speaking man, people can always check us out. You can follow me at Dr. Brad MD. That's D, R, B, R, A, D, M, D. Even in my sports medicine practice we're doing some big things on the radio or in there. So I had that earlier this morning. So today's kind of been a media day. Dr. Berry: I love it. Media day. I'm proud of media. Dr. Brad Bellard: There was media day, man. So check out what we got on there. Should I talk to him about the free video? (Talk to them. Let's go). Yeah. So listen man, I got a heart to give. So for anybody who's looking to turn their goal, talk about goals here, people who might have some health goals, any goal that you have. If you're trying to create that goal into reality, I've created a free video. It is literally free. Like it's not like this dude is like talking crazy like no, it's free, it's free. And so it's a video training. It's about a little less than 10 minutes long and it's called the Results Formula. And so I talk about that results formula and how you can apply it to your life. And that's at www.resultswithdrbradmd.com. I'm sure you'll put it on the notes (Definitely. Go ahead). And if you go there… Dr. Berry: In fact, Lunch and Learn community, If you text Dr. Brad MD at 44222 I will make sure that links directly to you. Dr. Brad Bellard: Man. Dude, Dr. Barry, man. Look man, it's been a pleasure man. We have to chop it up some more just offline. Dr. Berry: Yes, yes. I'll tell them about the bread aisle before we started. I was like, hey man, I've been waiting to talk to you. There's certain people that you just see their energy and you're like, okay, yeah, this one. Yeah, he's gonna be a problem, right? A good problem, of course. This one right here. Let me keep an eye on this one right here. Tell you Lunch and Learn community, I follow him on YouTube. We're going to get him to do his podcast. We already got on him. Dr. Brad Bellard: Yeah. The accountability has come. I feel it now. I gotta I gotta get up out there man. And you're going to be on that podcast. We'll just go here and get ready. Dr. Berry: Love it. And again, I follow on YouTube and make sure when you follow him on YouTube, make sure you hit the little notification bell. So you know, every time a new video pops up, you knew it. When is your, Tuesdays and I'm an eastern standard time so I don't want to say the wrong time. Dr. Brad Bellard: Yeah. On my Facebook fan page and even on my personal page, I do something called Tuesday topics with Dr. Brad is where I deliver a lot of content to help people maximize their potential. And so that's at 7:00 AM central standard time. So that is 8:00 AM your time. Dr. Berry: Okay, perfect. So if you think about the amazing stuff that he gives you for free, just imagine you know what's in that membership site. I just want you to like, like again, he didn't even cut me a check. Right? I'm just telling you the amazing stuff that he gives away for free. When you talk about achievement, when you talk about goals and fears and just personal growth. And if he's given it for free, I can only imagine what's in his membership site. Dr. Brad Bellard: Dude, I'm so excited about this. Like I said, because it's hard for me to do what I do on a one on one. It's only so much time in the day. But being able to really bless the masses but still serve as that as that coach from. Oh man, I do, I literally cannot wait until I launch this. My guess, it's probably going to be toward the end of this month, beginning of next month. Dr. Berry: Can't wait. And honestly one of the reasons why I even did the podcast, because I was like, yeah, I could talk to a person one on one in the clinic, but I want to talk to people, right? I know more people need to hear what I'm saying. So that's why I'm definitely a fan of the membership site because unfortunately, you know, we're not making more time. Right? We only got 24 hours on a day. We're getting pulled in so many different directions that you sometimes will, I don't want to say do a disservice, right? Well, if you're only focusing on one person. You're not able to help the 20 people who maybe in New York and in Florida, in Montana, and all these other different places because you're just situated in one spot. So definitely excited. Please let us know when this membership site goes up so we can let the Lunch and Learn community get on that ASAP. Dr. Brad Bellard: Will do, man, I will do. Dr. Berry, man. I'm telling you, it was a blessing. It's an honor. Anytime somebody to say, look to do that, I'd love to talk to you more and more importantly, dude, I mean to be invited to address your audience of listeners. That's literally an honor, man. So I love what you're doing. You blessing folks, dude. Your impact is probably more than you realize. I told you that already before we got on. Your impact even on me just seeing what you're doing has been significant, man. So I hope the people who are listening to this know just how significant you are and your information as far so keep doing it, man. Dr. Berry: Appreciate that. You have a great one. Dr. Brad Bellard: Alright, brother. Download the MP3 Audio file, listen to the episode however you like.