We all do it — the comment under our breath, the sharp thought in traffic, the eye-roll during a conversation, or the self-judgment in the mirror. In this episode,Dr. Wendy Bazilian invites you to go beyond just pausing the inner critic — and start replacing it with something better.
Join Wendy for a refreshingly real and research-backed exploration of why criticism shows up so often (even when we don’t mean for it to), and what we can gently practice instead. Learn my CLEAR™ method for pausing and redirecting criticism, hear what neuroscience and behavior change research have to say about shifting our habits, and take part in a mindful minutedesigned to create space, soften your thoughts, and reconnect with curiosity, calm, and clarity.
Together, we’ll make room for a more thoughtful, compassionate, and grounded way of moving through our 1,000 waking minutes.
WE DISCUSS:
(1:32) A morning moment with my daughter that sparked this episode — and the wisdom of ‘practicing the practices’
(10:01) Why criticism feels so automatic — and why it’s not really our fault (hello, brain wiring)
(14:00) Quieting the negativity loop and understanding habit loops with Dr. Judson Brewer
(18:29) The two systems of thinking from Daniel Kahneman — and how criticism comes from the faster one
(20:28) Beginner’s mind and Zen teachings on curiosity over certainty
(22:50) Why self-compassion matters: Science-backed benefits of positive internal dialogue
(24:55) A Mindful Minute: A short guided practice to shift from critique to curiosity
(28:39) The CLEAR™ method: A 5-step process to catch and shift the pattern of critique
(34:47) Encouragement to try this with a friend — and how even one day of trying can create ripple effects
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- Email me: 1KWM@wendybazilian.com
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