In G. K. Chesterton's Orthodoxy, he tells a sort of parable in which children are given space to play on a mountain top surrounded by steep precipices on all sides. At first the children are left to play on the mountain top without any walls. Fearful of falling off one of the edges, they all huddle up in the middle. Then, walls are erected, and the security that such walls provide gives the children the confidence they need to play without fear of falling. A father's loving presence can act like such walls in the lives of his children. Yet, at times, the practical realities of life make it difficult for fathers to be fully present in such a way. This week on HeightsCasts, we feature a talk given by headmaster Alvaro de Vicente on the topic of paternal presence, originally offered at our recent fatherhood conference. Although there are no set manuals for successful parenting, in his talk Mr. de Vicente suggests four areas that fathers can consider as they examine the ways they may or may not be present in their children's lives: The importance of paternal presence The obstacles to paternal presence Professional work Personal interests Difficult children The types of presence Physical Intellectual Moral Spiritual The stages of presence Holding the hand Holding the back of the bike Holding the second steering wheel Holding the phone In the end, Alvaro encourages fathers to behave as they would wish their sons to behave when they reach their own age. But when they fail, he also reminds them of St. Mother Teresa of Calcutta's words: "God doesn't ask that we succeed in everything, but that we are faithfull.". Chapters 0:14 WelcomeStart 2:15 The importance of presence 5:00 Some challenges to being present 11:40 DSuggestions for dealing with those challenges 12:50 Types of presence 13:00 Physical 18:55 Intellectual 27:35 Moral 29:00 Spiritual 33:10 Stages of presence 37:40 Takeaways and concluding thoughts Also on the Forum Friendship for Fathers: On Living and Teaching the Art with Prof. John Cuddeback The Bedrock Principle of Fatherhood with Andy Reed The Father and His Family: On Fatherhood with Michael Moynihan Parenting from Fear: On Reasons for Confidence with Alvaro de Vicente Parental Authority: On Our Role with Dr. Leonard Sax