All too often, we say yes to others whenever we are asked to do something, but deep down we feel resentful even though it was our decision in the first place. We suppress those feelings of resentment, but emotions like resentment are energy and energy has to go somewhere. So it does, those negative feelings express themselves through your body and begin to corrode at the bond between you and the people in your life. What we really resent is the fact that every time we are asked to do something, we feel faced with decision to do what would make us happy and be a bad, unlovable person or to do something we don't want to do and remain a good, lovable person. We develop the habit of never saying no because we want to be loved.

We set ourselves up for failure by never saying no because we commit ourselves to a life lived for other people and not for ourselves. This isn't sustainable, because it takes a toll on our energy, body and relationships.