The last category of strongholds is the relational strongholds. With our first breath and first cry, we begin learning how to relate to our world. As we grow and mature, we develop and discover ways that we feel work for us. In the world of psychology, these are called coping mechanisms. Many of these coping mechanisms work well for both the people around us and us. There are some coping mechanisms that we may feel work well for us but do not work so well for the people around us; we label these extremes as personality disorders. The enemy continues to whisper that we can find a “safe harbor” without God.  He encourages the belief that we can find comfort and contentment in our own hands.