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07. Velcro Trust: Why Holding on Tight Pushes People Away

Heal Your Trauma Find Your Voice
Heal Your Trauma Find Your Voice
Episode • Feb 26 • 13m

Do you find yourself constantly seeking reassurance in relationships—asking if everything’s okay, replaying conversations, or wondering if you did something wrong?

Many trauma survivors have learned to cling to love when it appears, not realizing that their eagerness to bond with a new friend or partner might actually push them away.

In this episode, I unpack Velcro Trust, a trust pattern where the need for reassurance can be overwhelming, leading to anxiety, clinginess, and fear of rejection. 

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU’LL KNOW:

  • Five signs you’re holding on too tightly in relationships—and how to create more balance
  • How to stop constantly seeking reassurance from others and start empowering yourself
  • Why awareness can help you step out of survival mode and and build healthier, more fulfilling trust in your relationships

00:00 Introduction to Velcro Trust

01:13 Understanding Trust Patterns

02:06 Deep Dive into Velcro Trust

03:58 Lindsay's Story: A Case Study

06:56 Childhood Roots of Velcro Trust

08:45 Identifying Velcro Trust in Your Life

10:28 Reflection Activity and Conclusion

Let' dive in!

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