Enablers of bad behaviors often times come from families that normalize bad behavior. When we are in a toxic environment we sometimes don't know we are in this toxic environment. Part of getting conscious and stopping this enabling behavior is identifying the blueprint that sets us up for tolerating it. It is important as a first attempt to direct our attention towards the behavior as oppose to the person. As I say to my patients, don't drop the person, drop the problem, but if the person wont drop the problem you may need to move on.