Lost in Translation: How Men and Women Hear Dating Terms Differently

Episode • Oct 3, 2023 • 35m

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

- Communication differences surrounding certain phrases, such as “I need time alone” and "we need to talk"

- Clarifying the meaning of commitment with each partner

- Asking specific questions to understand expectations and intentions

- Regular communication and clarification to avoid misunderstandings

- Importance of discussing expectations and desires for building a deeper connection

- Addressing potential issues and clarifying intentions early on

- Recognizing signs of a potential mismatch in commitment levels

- Importance of addressing concerns and desires to avoid future hurt and disappointment

- Men also need space for personal growth and processing, similar to women

- Seriousness for men may involve consistency and integrating each other into daily routines, not necessarily long-term plans

- Differences in views on moving in together

- Importance of open communication and taking time to be sure before making such big decisions

- Highlighting the need for communication and understanding differing perspectives in a relationship

Key quotes:

"When most women tell a man they want to ‘take it slowly,’ they are saying they want to build a strong emotional foundation before having sex. They want deep meaningful conversations and to build the emotional intimacy first. For men, taking it slowly often means NOT having intimate talks that go too deep." – Lisa Shield
“When a woman hears the phrase 'I need some space,' it can trigger catastrophic thinking and tap into her insecurities, causing her to question the stability of the relationship. On the other hand, for some men, being in a serious relationship may simply mean integrating each other into their daily routines and getting to know each other better, without necessarily signaling long-term plans or commitments." — Lisa Shield
“It is good to have a conversation to clarify what you mean by certain phrases. You can say, ‘Hey, ________, I know that we said we're in a committed relationship, and I also know that being in a committed relationship, that word can have different meanings for different people. I would love to hear what it means for you.’” — Lisa Shield

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