At the end of the day, we are only responsible for ourselves and our internal experience. Today we’re looking inward with Tucker Max, Co-Founder of https://scribewriting.com/ (Scribe Writing), and author of I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell. Tucker’s life hadn’t always been easy. Going through many negative experiences, he left his destructive lifestyle behind and pursued his affinity for writing. Years of rejection after rejection from publishers, he broke through and has since been labeled best selling author of several titles. Today, Tucker is on a mission to unlock the wisdom of the world by helping executives and entrepreneurs turn their ideas and messages into books. Let’s dive right into Tucker’s wild story and learn about a better way to live.  Things you will learn in this episode: [00:01 - 11:28] Opening Segment I introduce today’s guest, Tucker Max What Tucker is known for  Tucker gives some background on his life growing up  Lived in Kentucky  A miserable time with a broken family  Good at school  Grew up playing basketball in Lexington  Able to fit into any group  Tucker’s time at a law firm  Emotionally disconnected  Just following the typical life structure  Fired after two weeks  Tucker talks about his time working for his dad About Tucker’s dad  Fired by his dad [11:29 - 17:35] There is an Audience  Tucker talks about finding his affinity for writing  Sent his content out to publishers Rejection on a personalized level  Started a blog on his own  Tucker’s first book  Written 2002 then came out 2006 Bottomed out at 900 copies then came back up Found an audience by being funny and current  Insights on writing something good The people who find value in it  Just putting in work isn’t good enough  Work to resonate with people  [17:36 - 36:07] There Has to Be a Better Way Tucker shares about his life post first book release A movie made from his life  Wrote three more books  Wildly successful having everything you could ever need Still not happy  Getting into personal development  Tucker shares his time in psychotherapy  The overwhelming nature of meditation  Changing the game  Processing the trauma  Finding happiness by dealing with the trauma  Tucker’s life now  Father and husband  Secure attachments  The effect of keeping in your emotions  Your body doesn’t forget the fight or flight  The animal analogy  The problem of religion  Internalized experienced versus the externalized  [36:08 - 50:01] Closing Segment Who you know or What you know? The what doesn’t matter, just the who  Tucker’s definition of success  The internal and external Advice for people having trouble with relationships We are a bunch of traumatized monkeys  Get off the ship  Ask how am I showing up?  How are you healing yourself?  Take full responsibility for yourself  You don’t have a relationship problem, you have a ‘you’ problem Don’t adopt a victimhood lifestyle What would you want to be your primary message? Getting rid of the virus of victimhood  Complete radical responsibility for yourself  Everything starts at home  The RanDoM ROuNd Resources and links below  Final words  Tweetable Quotes:  “There’s one definition of good: does this resonate with people? Do they get value from it? Do they want to engage with it? Do they want to share it?” - Tucker Max “Having a map of Manhattan doesn’t really tell you what Manhattan is like, you kinda gotta walk the island… Knowing what you feel and feeling what you feel are totally different things.” - Tucker Max “My definition of success is doing things that matter with the people I love.” - Tucker Max  “All growth and all healing starts with taking...Check out FranBridge Consulting for premier non-food franchise opportunities: travischappell.com/franbridgeOur Sponsors:* Check out Kinsta: https://kinsta.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices