Pain Has a Purpose: The Ask a Sadist Starter Pack
He's LA's most feared agony columnist—and possibly its biggest De Sade fan. He wants to hurt you in the ways that most help you, and it means the world to him when you let him be mean to you. It's Ask a Sadist, a long-time fixture on Emerson Dameron's Medicated Minutes. And these are a few of his greatest hits.
The boundaries between cruelty and kindness blur in this provocative exploration of ethical sadism. Our host—self-described as having "a heart of rugged gold"—dismantles conventional morality to reveal how acknowledging our darker impulses might lead to more authentic, fulfilling lives.
"I like to hurt people in the ways that most help them," our host declares, establishing a philosophical framework where inflicting pain (with enthusiastic consent) becomes an act of profound kindness. This paradox forms the foundation for addressing listeners' diverse relationship challenges, from long-distance romance to workplace sexual politics.
When a listener describes their long-distance relationship struggles, our host reframes it as "an exquisite form of torture" with potential for growth rather than merely a problem to solve. This perspective transforms relationship challenges into opportunities for deeper self-understanding and personal evolution.
The episode takes a fascinating turn examining power dynamics in the workplace when addressing a young professional labeled "too sexy" by her female boss. Rather than offering standard harassment advice, our host provides an insightful analysis of unacknowledged desires and power plays, suggesting that understanding these dynamics gives the listener unexpected leverage.
Most provocatively, the recurring claim that "rough sex can save the world" isn't mere shock value but represents a coherent philosophy arguing that our repressed desires for dominance and submission, when denied healthy expression, manifest as destructive forces in society. By acknowledging and channeling these desires in consensual contexts, we might create more honest, less harmful expressions of our fundamental nature.
"Suffer like you mean it," our host advises, suggesting that deliberate engagement with discomfort yields greater insights than avoiding pain altogether. This challenges the modern obsession with comfort, proposing instead that a meaningful life emerges from embracing the full spectrum of human experience—darkness included.
Ready to explore your own darkness? Visit AskASadist.com to discover how honest engagement with your desires might be your path to liberation.