Scripture References: Ephesians 5:18-33; Jeremiah 29:4-7
Intro: Continuing our Ephesians series (Position -> Practice), last week focused on church leadership reflecting Jesus. Today, we explore how marriage is designed to reflect Jesus, specifically looking at Ephesians 5. This isn't just for married people; understanding the biblical premise and purpose of marriage is vital for all. The purpose isn't primarily personal fulfillment (as culture suggests) but Gospel Reenactment. Briefly noted: Jeremiah 29 shows God calling families, even in exile, to build and seek the city's welfare, impacting their community (like Visalia).
Key Points:
- The Premise: Spirit-Filled, Gospel-Shaped People (Eph 5:18-21):
- Paul's marriage instructions follow his call to be "filled with the Spirit" (v. 18).
- Spirit-filled living leads to worship, thankfulness, and crucially, mutual submission out of reverence for Christ (v. 21). It erodes self-centeredness, enabling service.
- The Gospel humbles us (we're worse than we think) and affirms us (we're more loved than we think). This frees us from neediness and empowers self-giving.
- Foundation for Marriage: When two Spirit-filled individuals, reshaped by the Gospel, marry, they can live out the specific roles described next. (Warning: Singles, don't marry someone whose ego isn't reshaped by the cross).
- The Purpose: Gospel Reenactment (Eph 5:25-33):
- Beyond Cultural Views: Marriage isn't just an economic/social contract (ancient view) or solely for personal fulfillment/romance (modern view). Both reduce its true purpose.
- A Profound Mystery: Paul explicitly states marriage points beyond itself to Christ and the Church (v. 32). It's a living parable of the Gospel.
- Covenant, Not Consumer: Biblical marriage is a covenant where the relationship's health takes priority over individual needs ("I'll meet your needs even if you don't meet mine"). Modern relationships often become consumer-based ("I'll meet your needs as long as you meet mine"), leading to breakdown when needs aren't met. Putting marriage as the ultimate source of fulfillment crushes it.
- The Roles: Reflecting Christ & the Church:
- Husbands: Love Like Christ (vv. 25-30, 33a):
- Love sacrificially, giving yourself up for your wife's spiritual well-being and flourishing ("as Christ loved the church... to make her holy").
- Nourish and cherish her as your own body.
- Defined by Christ's Headship: Initiate (pursue her, repent first, take responsibility even when not solely your fault), lead through service and sacrifice. Love her until she becomes lovely.
- Wives: Respect & Submit Like the Church (vv. 22-24, 33b):
- Submit to your husband's leadership "as to the Lord" (within the context of mutual submission, v. 21). This reflects the Church's response to Christ.
- Respect him. This isn't contingent on him being respectable; respect him until he becomes respectable. (Not blind obedience to sin, but honoring the role).
- Husbands: Love Like Christ (vv. 25-30, 33a):
Conclusion: Christian marriage, grounded in the Spirit and the Gospel, is designed to be a living reenactment of Christ's sacrificial love for His Church and the Church's loving response to Him. It's a covenant commitment where love and respect are given unconditionally, empowering mutual flourishing and pointing others to Christ.
Call to Action: Reflect and repent. Men: Have you loved your wife sacrificially like Christ, initiating and taking responsibility, or treated marriage
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