The Power of Showing Up with Dr. Tina Bryson
Welcome to part 2 of a 2-part series as Dr. Tina Bryson joins Amanda and Vickie to discuss her latest book, The Power of Showing Up, co-authored by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.
If the science of the brain, the “why” behind things, and learning about the four S’s of “Secure Attachment” for not only your children but for every relationship in your life interest you, you’ll want to stay tuned!
Dr. Tina Bryson is a psychotherapist, author, and Founder/Executive Director of The Center for Connection, a multidisciplinary clinical practice, and of The Play Strong Institute, a center devoted to the study, research, and practice of play therapy through a neurodevelopment lens.
Show Highlights:
- The Power of Showing Up is about how all of our relational experiences while growing up shape how we think and feel; what our brain comes to expect in relationships; and how we respond and function in relationships. It further dives into where our relational patterns come from and how it might impact our relationships.
- The Power of Showing Up is a great balance between science and practical information.
- Decades of research have shown that there is one thing that is the best predictor for how well kids turn out, no matter what we measure them on, and that is that they have had secure attachment with at least one person.
- Attachment is a mammal inborn-instinct that allows us to have a better chance of surviving.
- One of the best things a parent can do is to provide their children with secure attachment. This process involves the four S’s:
- Helping kids feel SAFE.
- Helping kids feel SEEN.
- Helping kids feel SOOTHED.
- When a kid experiences enough of the safe, seen, and soothed, then they will feel SECURE.
- Dr. Bryson discusses the potential impact of growing up in a home where a child might not feel safe, seen, soothed, or secure.
- Dr. Bryson shares and details the two practical strategies at the end of the “Safe’ chapter, which are 1) Do no harm and 2) Repair, repair, repair.
- It is important to communicate to kids that having emotions and having reactions is healthy.
- The four S’s are NOT about being permissive.
- Boundaries and predictability help make a child feel safe.
- Using playfulness or silliness in the moment can help a child want to cooperate.
- You don’t have to have long, reflective conversations around every little issue.
- As adults, we can learn to choose people who we expect to show up, who are predictable people.
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