We don't need to suffer, we can use techniques, meditations, and tools, that can enable us to move beyond struggle and suffering, no matter what is happening in our lives. 

Pema Chodron in her book, "When things fall apart. Heart advise for difficult times," is a great book to sit with. 

"The next time you lose heart and you can’t bear to experience what you’re feeling, you might recall this instruction: change the way you see it and lean in. Instead of blaming our discomfort on outer circumstances or on our own weakness, we can choose to stay present and awake to our experience, not rejecting it, not grasping it, not buying the stories that we relentlessly tell ourselves. This is priceless advice that addresses the true cause of suffering—yours, mine, and that of all living beings.

When we resist change, it's called suffering.

The root of suffering is resisting the certainty that no matter what the circumstances uncertainty is all we truly have.  

"When things fall apart. Heart advice for difficult times." Pema Chodron