Living with a narcissist can take quite a toll. The effects include, depression anxiety low self esteem aches and pains and feeling like you are going crazy. It is very hard to leave these dynamics, especially when you have years of history or family with the induvial. At the end of the day, you have to make discussions on your best interests and the best interests of your family. There are no right answers, however it is only fair to make a last ditch effect to shift the darkness into the light.