Prompted by Kendrick’s anthemic Drake diss, Ash claims it's the summer of the hater. But what does it mean to hate so hard? Plus: a listener who feels rejected by her English in-laws. Email your missed connections and dilemmas to ifispeak@novaramedia.com Got your tickets for If I Speak IRL yet? We're at the London Podcast Festival on 15 September. Tickets available from kingsplace.co.uk/ now. Music by Matt Huxley.