The Psychology of Likability and Politeness as Social Control

In this episode of PsyberSpace, host Leslie Poston explores the intricate and often controversial dynamics of likability, politeness, and professionalism. Focusing on their roles as tools of control, the episode delves into how these constructs influence power dynamics across race, gender, and age, particularly in the American context. Various studies and research are highlighted, examining how societal norms perpetuate biases and inequalities, impacting minority groups and women disproportionately. The episode also discusses the psychological aspects of these social expectations and their pervasive influence on personal and professional lives. Strategies for challenging and redefining these norms to foster inclusivity and diversity are explored, encouraging a reevaluation of how likability and professionalism are judged.

00:00 Introduction to Social Power Dynamics

01:41 The Psychology of Likability and Control

02:50 Politeness and Professionalism as Tools of Control

04:59 Whiteness and the Need for Approval

07:47 Generational and Gender Dynamics

11:28 Consequences of Non-Conformity

15:58 Breaking Free from Social Constraints

18:27 Conclusion and Further Reading