GITRMM ep 41: Boundaries Vs Rules

Episode • Jul 14, 2022 • 26m

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

Rules are somewhat arbitrary and they often come from our head, rather than our soul.
Rules can be separating and repel people. They can be black and white, while a boundary is about communicating what matters to you in a way that gives someone the choice to respect it.
Lisa gives an example of how Benjamin asked Lisa (nicely!) if she could change her tone, and how that was an example of him setting his own boundary.
Lisa and Benjamin give some real world examples of rules that almost resulted in missed connections and confusion to both the man and the woman.
The “rules” and all these strategies and games for dating may work to get a date, or even a ring, but they aren’t building toward a solid foundation because they aren’t based on emotional nakedness, trust, or vulnerability.
Being the Guardian of someone’s Soul isn’t about following rules. It’s about seeing the path that the soul needs to go on, and supporting it in every way possible.

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Quotes

“It's about finding that middle ground. It's about being able to say, ‘look, this is what works for me. This is what my truth is, and can you meet me there’?” - Lisa
“Rules are somewhat arbitrary, and they often come not from our soul, but from our head.” - Benjamin
“Rules are about control where boundaries are about emotional vulnerability.” - Benjamin
“Anytime you are setting a boundary, it’s about making a request and inviting and saying to a man ‘Could you? Would you? I would love to know your thoughts.’ It’s not one person dictating how it is.” - Lisa

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