My guest this week is John Howard. John is an internationally-recognized therapist, wellness expert, and educator who uses the latest science to help couples have stronger relationships. He is the host of The John Howard Show, a wellness podcast, and the creator of the Ready Set Love® series of neuroscience-based online programs for couples.

In this episode, we share our own stories and I get more vulnerable than usual– and that is telling of how supportive John is as a friend. 

Throughout his life, John has devoted his time to discovering the depths of healthy, whole relationships. This led him to realize the difference of Good Relationships and Good Intentions. This goes as follows…

Good relationship skills vs good intentions = two VERY different things! 

They’re different skill sets. And this is where John can help you out :-)

So— to better understand all of this, I laid it ALL out on the table… I just dealt with a recent breakup and John so graciously offered his sound and professional advice.

This led us to talk about attachment styles– and let’s be real, we all could benefit from understanding this ;-)

John’s Tips:

• Do not tamper yourself down! Do not minimize your power.
• Make sure your friend relationships and other relationships are as healthy as possible
• Don’t tolerate BS
• Set proper boundaries 
• Hold people accountable for treating you well
• Expect kindness and care  
• Place yourself in the healthiest of environments & communities 
• Vet people for emotional intelligence 
• Share your feelings and see how people deal with that — scan for EQ!
• Be with someone who is equally prepared to grow