On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Harvard Psychologist Susan David shows us a way out of this self-destructive internal conflict. She explains how to use your “negative” emotions to connect with your core values (which you can learn more about by taking this quiz here: http://quiz.susandavid.com/s3/eai ). She also discusses the dangers of focusing on being right, the power of self-compassion and importance of emotional agility. This episode is brought to you by: Butcher Box: Go to ButcherBox.com/IMPACT to reserve your spot on their waitlist. You’ll get an email when they’re ready to take your order. Skillshare: Explore your creativity at skillshare.com/impacttheory for 2 free months of Premium Membership. Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/impact to start your FREE 7 day trial AND get 25% off a Blinkist Premium Membership. SHOW NOTES: Emotions are data but they are not directives [1:33] How we approach our thoughts, emotions and stories determines our quality of life [3:48] What do you do when you realize the stories you tell yourself no longer serve you? [6:26] Our culture tells us some emotions are bad, so we get in conflict with our emotions [11:50] Only dead people never feel stress, anger, agitation or fear [14:15] How do you uncover what your emotions are really trying to tell you? [17:35] Technology has outstripped our ability to thrive [20:32] Susan explains how to understand your emotions in a more specific way [22:53] Our minds can convince us that we are right, even if it destroys our relationships [28:04] Susan describes the process of recognizing our emotions and stories for what they are [31:39] Even if the gods tell you that you’re right, you still have to decide who you want to be [33:46] Being seen and belonging are core human needs [36:35] Tom and Susan discuss the “tyranny of positivity” [38:30] Success is living a life concordant with your values [41:43] Susan shares the impact she wants to have on the world [47:08] FOLLOW: WEBSITE: susandavid.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/3eyCLaP FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2ZMoP9d TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2XdezFp Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.Want to transform your health, sharpen your mindset, improve your relationship, or conquer the business world? This is your epicenter of greatness. This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day.Subscription Benefits: Unlock the gates to a treasure trove of wisdom from inspiring guests like Andrew Huberman, Mel Robbins, Hal Elrod, Matthew McConaughey, and many, many, more New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to Tom’s AMAs, keynote speeches, and suggestions from his personal reading list You’ll also get access to an 5 additional podcasts with hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists covering health, mindset, business, relationships, and more: Legendary Mindset: Mindset & Self-Improvement Money Mindset: Business & Finance Relationship Theory: Relationships Health Theory: Mental & Physical Health Power Ups: Weekly Doses of Short Motivational Quotes  Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJazSubscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices