“Dancing with the Stars” winner and America hero, J.R. Martinez’ powerful story is anything but ordinary. Growing up without a positive father figure and amidst chaos, neglect, abuse, and bullying; J.R. had never experienced a secure base or unconditional love. Wanting to belong to something bigger and serve a purpose, J.R. joined the army at the age of 19, only to suffer life altering burns on the job three weeks into his first tour. After 33 plastic surgeries over four years, J.R. finally realized his ultimate healing would come from within rather than his outward appearance.Sparked by a series of events with his best friend, J.R. realized true strength comes from vulnerability and learned how to talk about the feelings that were bottled up for decades, process his trauma, and receive (and give) unconditional love. Today, J.R. is a successful actor, motivational speaker, podcast host, and devoted father and husband; and he inspires people around the globe with his story of transformation and healing. This episode imparts valuable lessons about self-development and how to come into your own even in the most difficult of times. If you’ve ever struggled with imposter syndrome, questioned whether people in your life truly love you, or feel at a loss for what direction to take your direction next; J.R. will teach you how to move forward in a positive way and “show up” for life no matter what’s happening. J.R. and Dr. Judy give you surprisingly easy tools to get started towards reinvention and rebirth today.If you can’t get enough of J.R., make sure to check out his new podcast “Rebirth!” available on all podcast platforms now.In this episode, we discuss:1. Reflections on JR Martinez’s extremely challenging childhood (5:00)2.  The surprising effects of being a parentified child (11:30)3.  Learning life skills from people other than your family (13:25)4.  How JR’s life altering burns set off a path of self-development (16:00)5.  The power of a good cry and the first time JR said “I love you” (20:00)6.  The real function of anger (23:00)7.  How JR finally got the unconditional love he craved (29:00)8.  Chinese cultural values and stoicism: “don’t be sad!” (33:00)9.  Becoming a Motivational Speaker 101: Overcoming self-doubt and speaking your truth (39:00)10. Silver linings: the incredible opportunities that the pandemic is providing you (45:00)11. Self-concept and happiness: Workaholics, daily commutes, jetsetting, and life balance (49:20)12. Why it’s ok to suck at stuff sometimes (53:05)13. How to discover the “Dan” in your life (58:20)14. Supercharged Tip: Reinvention and Regaining Control with JR and Dr. Judy’s best advice (42:45)https://www.drjudyho.com/https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho/https://twitter.com/drjudyho            https://www.facebook.com/doctorjudyho https://www.instagram.com/stage29podcastshttps://twitter.com/stage29podcastshttps://www.facebook.com/Stage29Podcasts/ https://jrmartinez.comhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rebirth-with-j-r-martinez/id1514640056https://www.instagram.com/iamjrmartinez/https://www.facebook.com/iamjrmartinez/https://twitter.com/iamjrmartinez Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices