Do you keep falling for the same emotionally unavailable men — and calling it a “spark”? In this honest and empowering episode of Speak Honest, I sit down with relationship expert and bestselling author Bob Grant to unpack one of the most common traps women fall into: mistaking intensity for intimacy. We talk about why real love often feels unfamiliar, how to stop hiding your emotions to seem “low maintenance,” and what men actually find irresistible. If you’ve ever sabotaged a healthy relationship because it felt “too safe”... this one’s for you.You might want to listen if:You’re drawn to the chase but bored by emotional availabilityYou’ve been called “too much” (or feared that you were)You suppress your anger or sadness to keep the peaceYou want love but don’t know what your non-negotiables areYou’re tired of trying to prove your worth and ready to feel secure insteadMore About Our Guest!Bob Grant is a clinically trained relationship expert, podcaster, and bestselling author of The Woman Men Adore. He’s the founder of Relationship Headquarters, where he specializes in helping women emotionally connect with a man, attract true love, get married, and, for those in a relationship, get unstuck and begin connecting as a couple.Email: bobgrant@relationshipheadquarters.comFacebook:  Women Men Adore Facebook GroupInstagram Linked In  Blog   YouTubePodcast: Bob Grant's RelationshipHeadquarters Podcast    Summit: Love that Lasts a LifetimeFIND OUT MORE! Join the Speak Honest Academy Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡 Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today! Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage! Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us! DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.