When it comes to how to motivate kids, our society gets a lot wrong.If you ever find yourself seconding guess your parenting choices that don't always look like the rest of society's parenting choices, definitely listen in to my talk with Jessica Lahey today.If, on another note, you've had a rough gardening season, or just want to improve your garden soil, check out this episode's sponsor, Redmond's Agriculture, & my favorite soil kit option on the market, right here: theprairiehomestead.com/soiltest. Be sure to use code HOMESTEAD & save 15% off your entire order!In today's episode, Jessica explains why extrinsic motivators (aka a parent begging, punishing, or bribing) don't boost a child's intrinsic motivation. And we dive into detail about all the better options.Jessica is the author of The Gift of Failure (https://bit.ly/3QF1MEN) and The Addiction Inoculation (https://bit.ly/3K93tIm).The books Jessica mentioned: How to Be a Person by Catherine Newman: https://bookshop.org/a/5789/9781635861822Your Turn by Julie Lythcott-Haims: https://bookshop.org/a/5789/9781250137777Where to find Jessica:website: jessicalahey.com#amwriting podcast: https://amwriting.substack.com/ facebook: facebook.com/jplaheyMy (New) Old-School Blog: www.prairiephilosophy.comHead to http://www.theprairiehomestead.com/grow to get complimentary access to my best homestead resources.Get more in-depth homestead info, printable recipes, tutorials, and more on my blog at www.theprairiehomestead.comGet Old-Fashioned on Purpose hats & shirts at www.homesteadswag.comFollow Jill on Twitter: http://twitter.com/homesteaderFollow Jill on YouTube: http://youtube.com/theprairiehomesteadFollow Jill on Instagram: http://instagram.com/jill.wingerOTHER HELPFUL RESOURCES FOR YOUR HOMESTEAD: Sign up for weekly musings from my homestead: http://theprairiehomestead.com/letter Get my free homesteading tutorials & recipes here: www.theprairiehomestead.com Jill on Instagram: @jill.winger Jill on Facebook: http://facebook.com/theprairiehomestead Apply to be a guest on the Old-Fashioned on Purpose podcast: https://www.theprairiehomestead.com/podcast-guest-application Did you enjoy listening to this episode? Please drop a comment below or leave a review to let us know. This can help other folks learn about this podcast and we also really appreciate the feedback!