Ep.37 My Degree Did Not Set Me Free From Abuse with Tubalemye Mutwale

Episode • Jul 31, 2021 • 1h 13m

Have you ever been in a situation that you never thought would happen to you? Tubalemye, shares her story of moving to study and eventually work in a new country. How she survived Gender Based Violence. As a highly educated woman from a very stable and loving home, she did not seem like the stereotype for women who find themselves in abusive relationships. As she explains, “It can happen to anyone.” The question is, how will you respond?

Trigger warning: This episode has strong references to Gender Based Violence.

Tuba (or Tubalemye ba Yahweh for short) Mutwale is a communications specialist with a deep love for travel, language, natural hair, ice cream, gardens, fruit and Jane The Virgin. If her parents were billionaires, Tuba would have studied African sociology and psychology and would have spent hours on end analysing the ways Nigerians differ from Ghanaians who differ from Rwandese who differ from Malawians. Tuba is now navigating life between Lusaka and Kitwe, having spent the last decade in South Africa.

Quotes:

“I was gambling with my life”

"My plan was always to come back [to my country]"

"I thought I was the baby in this relationship"

"When he pushed me down a flight of stairs, I was like, "Oh Tuba you are going back to Zambia in a body bag"

"It was the best of times. It was the worst of times"

"I needed to plan my exist quietly"

Connect with Tubalemye:

Twitter: @balemye

Instagram:@tubalemye_tuba

Blog: Stamped Lifestyle Blog

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