The last few days have been very instructive for me. They have demanded the best of me and mostly what I have seen was my weaknesses... 

Today I decided I was done with that. Here are 3 exercises to help you stay sane when you are still trying to figure out what is going on in your life. This is exactly what I have been doing and I feel like it has gotten me back into the driving seat of my life.

1. Organize - Do what you can to make sense of things. Are you shooting at the right goal? Have you been playing your role well? What does success mean to you in this situation?

If needed reevaluate your goals and put yourself back into the picture as someone who takes action and as the hero of your story. Trace back your steps to see why you may be feeling this way, and see what you can dig up. I spent about an hour outside in the cold today doing some deep thinking, and it helped me a lot with processing things and remembering who I am.

2. Talk With Others - When I have not really known what to do talking with others has been immensely helpful. It is good if they are people that you know have your best interest, that you can be yourself around.

Talking with others helps validate how you feel, and also give you an idea of why you feel that way. Recently talking with one of my good friends Mac has gotten me very excited! He is starting a book club and really wants me to be a part of it!

3. Give Yourself Space - It is easy to be overly demanding of yourself. Some things really do take time and each day can be a great learning opportunity. For the purposes of this episode I have thought of space as a place where there are no expectations.

Maybe it's playing video games, or going for a walk. Giving yourself some time to think things out can be immensely helpful. A lot of the time when I do these things that I love doing (like podcasting) it helps me reframe how I am doing. Doing this is not easy and is an act of self-care, but it will pay off.

Give yourself time to grow. You cannot force natural growth, it must be brought out, encouraged, and helped to happen. Whether it is your business, relationships, or schooling that is the seed you are struggling to have patience with, give it some time to bloom.

If you are really going through a difficult time I hope that these tips are helpful. There are many suicide hotlines and people who are more than willing to give their ear to you. Your thoughts are not you, they are just thoughts. You can change what you are thinking and slowly but surely the lights may come back on. Hang on friend. We are in this battle together. :)

Scriptures I Shared:


Ether 12:6

Hebrews 10:35-36 (not 36-37 oops)


My Appearance on the P.E.P. (People Empowering People) podcast: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/pep-talks-people/dallin-candland-actions-gave-ub6L7vZVqI4/

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