In this episode of Pivotal Decisions, Stan returns to his discussion of healthy relationships. In this episode, he focuses on navigating conflict. Using Peter Scazerro's work, "Emotionally, Healthy Relationships", Stan discusses how to deal with conflict in a healthy way.
Key Points:
- The Iceberg Metaphor:
- The visible part of an iceberg represents a small portion of our lives, while 90% lies hidden beneath the surface.
- Unprocessed emotions can resurface and damage relationships.
- Inevitability of Conflict:
- Conflict in relationships is inevitable.
- Example: Hannah and Blair Keeley, a couple claiming never to have argued.
- Three Choices in Handling Conflict (Scazerro's Outline):
- False Peace: Pretending everything is fine.
- Fighting Dirty: Various unhealthy tactics.
- Healthy Confrontation: Addressing conflict constructively.
Practical Steps for Healthy Conflict Resolution:
- Have the Right Attitude:
- Take the Initiative:
- Respond with a Blessing:
- Control Your Mouth:
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