Often times when you confront someone and you speak the truth in love they may experience pain. Just because their response is pain or hurt, it does not mean that you have done something wrong. A rageaholic is going to get angry when you confront them, and alcoholic is going to get angry when you talk about their drinking, a shopaholic is going to get angry when you talk about their spending. We all have to deal with people who are highly reactive, but we cannot allow them to discourage us from speaking the truth in love.
Galatians 4:16 Have I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?