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1181: Jefferson Fisher | Turning Confrontation Into Connection

The Jordan Harbinger Show
The Jordan Harbinger Show
Episode • Jul 10 • 1h 19m

Arguments escalate into relationship disasters daily. Trial attorney Jefferson Fisher shares courtroom tactics he uses to turn conflict into connection!

Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1181

What We Discuss with Jefferson Fisher:

  • Use time to regulate emotions in conflict. Take a breath before responding and slow down your speech. This prevents escalation and keeps you in control rather than entering "ignition mode" where you say things you regret.
  • Every person has surface and depth, and hostile behavior often masks deeper struggles. Asking "What's your biggest struggle?" can transform confrontational situations into connection.
  • Approach conversations with "something to learn" not "something to prove." When you try to win arguments, you lose relationships. Focus on understanding rather than being right to achieve better outcomes.
  • Handle interruptions strategically. Let them interrupt once, resume where you left off without acknowledging their interruption, then address it directly if they interrupt again: "I can't hear you when you interrupt me."
  • Show you're listening with one simple question. Before sharing your own story or response, ask one follow-up question about what they just shared. This makes people feel heard and valued in conversation.
  • And much more...

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