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One of the trickiest questions for parents is how to set expectations that help our kids thrive and grow without crushing them or making them feel low self-esteem or shame.  

If we don't set expectations we run the risk of making our kids feel like nothing they do really matters, so they can feel overlooked and apathetic about life, but we've all heard about parents who damage their kids through unreasonable demands. Our expectations are born out of our own ideas of what matters, so how do we know that we're not pushing toxic ideas on to our kids?

In this episode we talk about how today's society has come expect very little of our teens, whilst seemingly piling on pressure and expecting too much. We talk about how critical the growth mind set is, the stages we go through in learning a skill, and how we parents can support out teens to grow a wide range of important skills without damaging their self-esteem in the process. 

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THE SKILL MATRIX:

• Unconscious incompetence.
• Conscious incompetence.
• Conscious competence.
• Unconscious competence.

QUESTIONS THAT WILL EMPOWER YOUR TEENAGER:

•  Are the expectations placed upon me realistic? 
• Do they align with my values? 
• Is meeting those expectations within my control? 
• What and how do I communicate if the expectations are unreasonable or make m

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