Overcoming the FEAR of Success
“It’s not really what you want, it’s what you wish.”
Amy Lee Westervelt
Amy Lee Westervelt’s journey in the network marketing industry began in Juno, Alaska, where her husband was stationed. At the time, she felt very hopeless and wanted a different lifestyle. So, she and her husband agreed that if she could replace their monthly income, they could look into other options.
She began researching the law of attraction and other ways of manifesting their financial goals. Amy discovered network marketing, and new windows of opportunity opened up for her and her family. Before long, she was making a six and a seven-figure income.
Now, Amy is a successful mindset coach for empath entrepreneurs. She uses her background within network marketing to help network marketing professionals make peace with the resistance of more aggressive marketing techniques and empowers them to go after what they really want.
How can you dream bigger?
Amy has a three-step process of how to do this. First, assess what you want?
“The law of attraction is about aligning the outcomes you want with what you have.” - Amy Lee
For example, if your child needed specific medication because their life depended on it, wouldn’t you do anything and everything to obtain that medication? Of course! Yet, when it comes to your dreams, you only have some skin in the game, which doesn’t necessarily drive you.
Surrounding yourself with the kind of people who want you want is the second step. Alignment is crucial. When you emulate their habits first, you can modify them to fit into what works for you. When you surround yourself with successful people, you start thinking differently and believing they believe. You change from thinking I’m not enough, to I can do anything.
The third step is is to affirm. To say that it’s so.
“What will my life be like when? And start living as if...and then start making room for that abundance in your life.” - Amy Lee
When you experience resistance, it’s called the Terror Barrier. This refers to your ego and how it strives to keep you safe. However, it often prevents you from trying new things because it tells you that “new” isn’t safe. Yet, the truth is, you’re not afraid of failing. You’re scared of succeeding because you don’t know what life looks like there.
“When you come up to resistance, the first thing to do is to thank that resistance.” - Amy Lee
Resistance is there to protect you, but if you don’t push back, it will relax. To overcome resistance, let go of all the other things you haven’t done. Let go of the guilt. Don’t take setbacks as personal attacks. They’re normal; instead, jump in the driver seat and try it again. Understanding that your ego is there to help you allows you to break false beliefs and create new ones.
“Forgive yourself for the dreams you didn’t think you were allowed were to aspire to.” - Amy Lee
Imposter Syndrome is one way people fear success because they believe they can’t do what they claim. However, when you start using “I,” you already know you’re inside your head.
What are you getting paid to do? You’re getting paid as a network marketer to show up and help others learn how to market their business authentically. It’s not your responsibility to reach their goals for them or make them do the work. You have to get over the feeling of being responsible for your team’s ultimate success. They need to create goals; they need to put in the work and market in authentic ways. You provide the tools and guidance necessary to do that. Cheer for them, show up for them, but remember what you’re there for.
To learn more about Amy, check out her website at http://gratitudeandglamour.com/ or check out her Facebook group for more interactive content.
How to get involved
- If you are ready to take your business online and have the system to free up your time AND bring in the customers and recruits you want, check out www.socialtenacitytraining.com!
- If you want to continue the conversation, join the Official Authentic Influencer Marketing Community on FB HERE
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