I recognise that it's a total romanticisation, but I have a really soft spot for small-town gay bars.

I love that they are inclusive (even if it is by necessity rather than design) and I love what they represent - a safe haven nestled in to a place that may not feel all that safe otherwise...

This week we're headed to the lost small town gay bar Rumours, which was found in upstate New York. And our guest is singer/songwriter, teacher, facilitator, and Director of Marketing and Communications of the Easton Mountain Retreat Centre, Freddy Freeman.

He shares what it's like growing up in a small town, the cliques that can sometimes form in bear communities, and one of my favourite topics ever - the process of figuring out where you fit in...

Do you have any memories of Rumours, or clubbing from your own scene that you want to share? Well, if you have please get in touch - I want to create the biggest online record of people's memories and stories - go to www.lostspacespodcast.com and find the section 'Share a Lost Space' and tell me what you got up to! Bonus points for embarrassing photos!

You can also find me on Facebook (www.facebook.com/lostspacespod), Instagram (www.instagram.com/lostspacespod) and Twitter (www.twitter.com/lostspacespod)

Find out more about Freddy by following him on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/goldenheartbear).